Peace & Perspective

Living in Peace by having the right perspective. Peace – ˈpēs Noun: Freedom from strife; a state of tranquillity or serenity. Perspective – per·spec·tive – pərˈspektiv – Noun: A particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.


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Christ Followers – Stop with the Karma!

I always cringe when I see Christians posting on Karma. Karma has nothing to do with God. Karma is a theological concept found in the Buddhist and Hindu religions. That fact alone should make Christians run but why do I see so many Christians wishing “Karma” on others or seeking any form of revenge?

First, as Christians, Karma is the last thing we should want on those who have betrayed or hurt us. Sure, our flesh may want revenge and for them to feel the same pain they caused us, but as Christians, we are to die to our flesh and allow the Holy Spirit to guide us with humility. Once you do that, your flesh takes a back seat and the Holy Spirit takes over and you begin to recognize the root cause of the lost soul who hurt you and how desperately they are in need of healing and prayer.

The Holy Spirit within us prompts our hearts to want the best for others – despite… Despite the pain they’ve caused, despite the betrayal, despite the unfairness. This is a great test to see where our level of spiritual maturity is. Wishing revenge or karma on someone who’s hurt you is a telltale sign of the level of your spiritual maturity.

  • Those with no spiritual maturity will wish karma and seek revenge upon those who have hurt them and will be at peace with that decision.
  • Those who are infants in spiritual maturity will wish karma and revenge on others but will feel that Holy Spirit nudge and know it’s not right to wish revenge on anyone and do their best to withdraw from these feelings.
  • Those who are growing in their spiritual maturity will reluctantly but obediently pray for the best outcome for those who have hurt or betrayed them. It’s difficult for them but they still do it and in doing it, they continue to grow spiritually and God rewards them for their obedience in giving them peace in the matter.
  • And lastly, those who are fully spiritual mature will have an automatic instinct to pray for someone that has wronged them and their heart will hurt for them because they have the discernment to know how badly they are in need of saving and inner healing that can only come from prayer and intercession. There is no wish to do them harm and all they desire is to see them healed and whole again. Because someone who is healed and whole cannot and does not hurt others.

Scripture is very clear that if we are walking the path of righteousness – not our righteousness but His, God will always vindicate us. I find comfort knowing that He knows my heart and my intentions always and I don’t have to explain anything to Him because He already knows and I can rest in that.

Patiently waiting for God to vindicate us means we must trust in His timing and that is very difficult. It means He alone will bring truth to light and expose darkness without any effort from us.

We must remain obedient and silent, not seeking to vindicate ourselves while we wait. We must understand and recognize that through the waiting, He is doing a work in everyone involved, including us and by being obedient, He will vindicate those who are walking in His righteousness and He alone will deal with those who are not. This brings me peace.

Once you have reached this peaceful realization that the bad behavior of others has nothing to do with you (assuming you’ve done some self-reflection and have owned your part of any conflict), give it to God and just wait. Soon peace will come, not by wishing punishment on whoever hurt you, but because you know a greater power is in charge of the situation and you can finally let go of all the exhausting effort in vindicating yourself. By waiting, trusting, and handing it over to God, you’ll not only receive righteous vindication, but it will be the purest form of justice you will ever receive without one bit of effort from you.

Take it from me because this is where I am now, receiving Godly favor in all areas of my life. Be sure to recognize what vindication may look like…sometimes it’s not as obvious as you have envisioned it. Vindication may be good health, good fortune, wonderful children, a blessed marriage, peaceful and joyful living, restoration of your reputation, or the emergence of new, Godly friends. Just be sure to recognize the blessings in your life…they are God’s favor for your obedience.

Psalm 17:2
Let my vindication come from you; may your eyes see what is right.

Romans 12:19
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

I’d love to hear your thoughts! If this blog has helped in any way, please share with others.

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An Alternative to New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year!

January 1st. It doesn’t matter what year it is. This is the day we are all prompted to make our New Year’s Resolutions. A cognizant awareness along with a list of criteria that will better ourselves in the new year.

Resolutions are done with great and determined intentions. At the time we create them, we are absolutely 100% sure that, “This is the year I’m going to stick to them!” That’s good. That’s tenacity. It’s certainly better than the alternative of giving up before we even started. It shows we are desiring growth in whatever area we feel we need to improve. It also shows our humility in admitting that we are always in need of improvement. Resolutions signify new beginnings and perhaps making some necessary changes in your life all in the spirit of improving ourselves!

Flip the calendar several pages. It’s March. That excited feeling of accomplishing great things on January 1st has been forgotten. We’ve returned to the same habitual lifestyle that we had all intentions of changing and improving. Our resolutions turned into failed attempts, lack of willpower, and laziness. We are deflated and perhaps even feel like a failure.

That is why I no longer make resolutions. I don’t need a calendar or a special day to motivate me to better myself. Here’s the great thing. We have 365 days each and every year to do this. Yes, it’s true! We can better ourselves every single day. And, if we fail one day, the next day is filled with just as much promise to try again. We don’t have to wait an entire year to commit to bettering ourselves. There is no holiday needed and no milestone to wait for. Simply, commit to live a life of intention every single day.

These intentions are different for everyone. Some may intend to commit to being more thoughtful, kind, or selfless. While others are striving to lose weight, eat healthier, or tackle their finances more responsibly.  Regardless of your personal intention, find something that you are in need of improving and focus on it every day.

So, if you are going to make a New Year’s Resolution this year, make only one. Strive to live intentionally every day of your life and forgive yourself if you fall short of your expectations because tomorrow is always a new day!

Happy New Year – Happy New You!


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Share Your Story!

Everyone goes through different types of trials. They are all for a greater purpose. When we go through trials, we come out with two things, experience we never asked for and wisdom we can’t help but obtain. Whether the end result of the trial is good or bad, we still come out with experience and wisdom. I often share my various trials with those close to me who are deep into their own trials or those who are brave enough to reach out to me for help. I offer the wisdom I learned through my experiences in order to show a different perspective now that I am able to look back at the lessons each trial has taught me. I do this to provide hope to those in pain and an open heart and an open mind will receive this gesture as such. How do I know this? Because I was on the receiving end of those who loved me enough to bravely share their stories of pain with me in order to give me a hope for my future. What a difference they made in my life. I am forever grateful for their demonstration of love to me for the sole purpose of my healing. Those people are a friend for life!

Many times, we are too stubborn and it’s not until some form of tragedy hits, heartbreak ensues, our spirits are broken, uncertainty lies ahead, and emotional and/or physical pain consumes us that we are propelled into wanting, needing and desperately desiring more in life.

My trials were the driving force for my thirst for wisdom, knowledge and much-needed understanding in order to comprehend and learn how to cope with issues I never thought I would have to face. Sadly, my years of a normal, predictable, and blessed life mostly filled with joy and happiness with a few bumps in the road peppered in never urged me into any self-reflection of who I was and what my priorities were nor did they prompt me to seek anything more or desire to change. It was entirely due to my despair and devastation that prompted me to want more in life and change my priorities.

This is why I share my stories with others. Horrible trials are all for a beautiful purpose. Lessons. If we are humble enough to learn the lessons through our trials, and if we are brave enough, we will share them with those we see going through difficulties to provide hope to them during their pain. If received, they will, in turn, do the very same when they see others struggling in their trials and we will have created a beautiful ripple effect of positive influence by simply sharing our stories of pain and triumph to those who are in need of hope.

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The Repercussions of Denial and How to be Free From it

Denial will:

  • Allow you to continue to stay in a pit of darkness indefinitely.
  • Rob you of your peace.
  • Promote a delusional way of thinking where you believe your own lies and justify unjustifiable situations.
  • Eventually cause you to self-destruct.

Denial will not:

  • Bring resolution to any problem.
  • Change the facts of a situation.
  • Improve your life in any way.

Are you using denial as a coping mechanism? Denial falsely allows you to believe that if you don’t accept and deal with an unpleasant or painful situation, you don’t have to accept the truth and reality of it and therefore, it doesn’t exist. You blindly go about your life pretending everything is okay when it’s not masking your pain with the facade of joy and peace. This results in living a life of deception and will catch up with you as deception opens the door to more pain and difficulty to take root in your life.

By not facing truth and reality, the only thing you are accomplishing is holding yourself prisoner in your very own jail. You alone hold the key to escape out of your prison.

Soon you will see that avoiding whatever it is you don’t want to accept and burying it further and further inside you will only manifest into dysfunction in all other areas of your life. The more you prolong acceptance, the more detrimental denial is in your own life.

It will manifest into your mental state, your physical state, your relationships, your marriage, your home, your family and your overall peace.

Why not consider taking a new approach? There is a way out. Simply accept what is and face it head on!

Easier said than done, I agree. But once you begin by taking the very first step toward acknowledging that the denial must end and that you must now learn to cope with what placed you there to begin with, you are on your way to freedom! My advice comes from personal experiences resulting in many successful final outcomes motivating me to share it with you.

How? Here are a few easy and doable steps to freedom:

  1. You cannot do anything to improve your circumstances if you act in pride. Refusing help, guidance, truth, and reality will only keep you right where you are forever. Give yourself ample time to process the difficult situation, but do not stay there! As you begin to drop your pride, you will find that you are now able to humbly ask for help. As you do this, the main focus should be your freedom and revelation that the weight of the issue on your shoulders that you have been carrying for way too long will now be exchanged with a healthier way of coping with the problem. It won’t change the situation you have to deal with it, but it will drastically improve your quality of life as you navigate and accept the truth and reality of what you’ve been denying in a more objective and healthy manner. It will make a huge difference.

Proverbs 16:18 – Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.

  1. Seek wisdom. It’s amazing what we learn when we seek and thirst for wisdom and are ready to grow and be tested. The scales on our eyes are peeled away and light appears in the form of truth and understanding. Solicit advice from those who tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear – those are the people who truly care about your well-being. Those that speak with such boldness do it with your very best interest at heart, otherwise, they would not put themselves in such a vulnerable position of the possibility of your rejection and anger. This is a sign of true friendship – hold onto it dearly. It means they love you and want what’s best for you at any cost. This is where your humility will be tested. Do you accept the advice or do you resist? If you’ve checked your pride before soliciting advice, you’ll be sure to learn, consider new approaches, see things in a different light and be on your way to better understanding and dealing with your difficult situation. You’ll also be able to remove all emotional pain associated with it and cope merely based on facts and solutions and hit it head on. This is the difference between being a prisoner and being free.

Proverbs 27:5-6  – Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.

Proverbs 4:6-7  6 Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you.  7 The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

  1. Now that you have dropped your pride and searched for wisdom, you are on your way to freedom. Be assured that God has recognized your obedience thus far and is orchestrating all things to work out for your good as He works behind the scenes to send blessings your way. As you pray, remember to come boldly yet humbly before Him and ask Him to shield you with his protection, make a way where there seems no way, and guide you on the path that is His will for you as you allow Him to use you as His vessel in whatever it is He wants to accomplish through you in your trial.

Matthew 7:7-8 “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

  1. Last but not least, wait for His timing. This is where He does a work in you and refines you like silver. He works on your patience, your trust, your faith, and your self-control. You cannot rush His timing. The level of your faith, trust and obedience will show God the true condition of your heart and whether or not you are ready to be promoted and blessed. Do not give up if you do not see instant results. The longer your situation lingers, the more you have to learn. Resolution only comes when God sees you have learned all the lessons He wanted to teach you. A willing and submissive heart will learn these lessons much quicker than those who stubbornly and defiantly give up before the lesson is learned. A failed lesson will only result in further testing.

Isaiah 40:31 – But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.

Zechariah 13:9 – And I will put this third into the fire, and refine them as one refines silver, and test them as gold is tested.

Be blessed as you accept what is and live in freedom!


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Writer’s Block, Already? I wanted to write about Peace.

I was all geared up to write an amazing blog on peace. I had a vision of what it was going to look and sound like. I typed away, I deleted. I typed again, I deleted. I exited out and saved it for later. I began again, I deleted. I had nothing. I was completely blank. That is very unlike me. I am never at a loss for words – ever.

When I began this blog, thoughts flowed through me at such an incredible pace, I was thankful remembering that I was once clocked at typing 98 wpm so I knew my fingers were able to keep up with my mind. I created lists that contained lists within them of all the things I wanted to share my perspective on. It was an explosion of information and thoughts.

But not recently. I had nothing. I was all tapped out. And I know exactly why. My mind is not and has not been at peace due to some outside influences which have been sent to distract me. I haven’t been in the His word, I am not seeking His wisdom and my head has been filled with Satan’s lies and confusion. Satan knows my greatest goal is raising Godly children, having a Godly marriage, and living a life in obedience to God’s word. He knows that I know that if I do these things, God will provide all my blessings, including true peace. He’s thrown many things at us in the past 10 years and now he’s using yet another tactic to tear our family apart in the hopes we will just give up and give in to his dark kingdom.

Corinthians 14:33

For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.

John 8:44

….when he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

A great friend of mine always told me that when she gave me advice, it didn’t come from her but from the Holy Spirit. I was so thankful to have her give me truth in love and turn my thinking around. I admired her for giving credit to the Holy Spirit for her anointed words and they helped changed my life during some very difficult times. She was truly sent by God for my healing. As I’ve grown closer to God, surrendered to His will, meditated and sought wisdom from His word, I have also felt this anointing, mostly when speaking to my family or my closest friends. I don’t feel as comfortable sharing such deep and intimate wisdom with others who may not be ready to receive nor willing. But I feel that it is my role as a mother and wife to feed my family wisdom through God’s word. Many times, I stop and realize that I am being led by God with my words and am in awe of the wisdom that comes out of my mouth. This is not a prideful moment of me knowing it all, but it is a revelation of God guiding me with His wisdom. This wisdom that flows through me has proven to be real and true resulting in my children walking in truth and our family and my marriage remaining solid and whole despite everything sent to tear it apart.

Spiritual warfare is real and has been attacking our family for nearly 10+ years. It is an unseen entity that tries to infiltrate a happy home, filled with love, unity, and righteousness and tries to destroy it through disease, turmoil, emotional pain, and people. I have seen it happen to my family and thankfully, we are a strong, convicted family and, by the grace of God, we continue to survive Satan’s attacks. If we didn’t live in obedience and surrender to Him, this wouldn’t be the case. I’ve watched it destroy families who are not as solid in their convictions and their obedience to God and they are left with nothing but devastation.

If we let it, it can and it will consume us too. We are never to be arrogant enough to think it can’t happen to us. Therefore, we must stand firm in our obedience to God. We must be humble to know that we all can fail but we must resist the temptation of Satan’s suggestions to participate in anything that is not of God. We know better. Satan knows he cannot get to my children, my marriage, and my family, so he is doing everything he can and will use the spiritually weak to attack the spiritually strong on a continual basis. They are simply pawns in Satan’s game and are unaware of the stronghold he has over them and the deception they are under.  All we can do is pray for their deliverance and only God can do that.

James 4:7

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you

I had written all these wonderful adjectives describing peace: serenity, tranquility, contentment, etc. in my first attempt to write a blog on peace. While I completely agree that those adjectives contribute to my definition of what true peace is, they are only attainable under normal circumstances. I must learn to submit and surrender to God and understand that, at times, peace is the acceptance of an outcome you did not desire in a difficult situation. 

This began as a blog on writers block. I guess I just wrote a blog on peace….without me even knowing it. Thank you, Holy Spirit.

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

Peace!