Peace & Perspective

Living in Peace by having the right perspective. Peace – ˈpēs Noun: Freedom from strife; a state of tranquillity or serenity. Perspective – per·spec·tive – pərˈspektiv – Noun: A particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.

Attempting Peace with a Narcissist

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Right off the bat, forgive me for using a title for this new post that is an oxymoron. It’s a contradiction of words. Peace and Narcissist do not belong in the same sentence. It’s like they need their own paragraphs…perhaps even their own chapters; that’s how far away peace and narcissist are from each other.

How do you bring reason to an unreasonable situation? How do you insert logic into an illogical mind? How do you begin to rationalize with someone so irrational?

Encounters with a narcissist are dizzyingly incomprehensible. Each and every encounter leaves your mind baffled and confused as it repeatedly asks, “What just happened?”

How can one strategically attempt to craft the correct words and actions, pre-planning every step of the way so as not to offend or anger someone who believes their land of delusion is reality and still be brutally shot down because it was once again not sufficient enough to satisfy their domination over you?

You finally think you’ve arrived at the precisely chosen peaceful, loving, merciful walk-on-eggshell verbiage in order to approach an unapproachable person for no other goal than to try to resolve situations which derived from absolute nonsense to begin with provoked and instigated by an overbearing controlling bully with a wacked ideology, only to be met with a new round of more demands, more belittling, more demeaning, and more control.

I’m really not that slow of a learner but why don’t I know this yet? Ugh. I think this time I finally get it.

It’s not because I’m unintelligent. It’s because of how I do life. I give others another chance. I give others the benefit of the doubt. I try to find the good in the bad. It’s the mentality by which I live by.

Here’s the revelation I finally get. I am trying to apply social graces, civility, normality, logic, and rationale to someone who doesn’t grasp the most basic common sense behaviors and norms that stable, healthy members of society live by. Whew! That’s a relief. I get it!

Yes, I get it. However…I still can’t process it and it’s still dizzyingly incomprehensible to me.

Keep on doing what is right and that includes removing unresolvable toxic relationships once and for all.

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Author: peaceandperspectiveblog

This blog contains my perspective on issues we face in today’s world, within relationships, and in our daily lives with the end goal of bringing light into darkness and how to ultimately live in peace throughout it all! My mission is to share my knowledge and wisdom that I have acquired through my life’s many trials and challenges from the past ten years as well as how I have reaped the fruit of my labor (Psalm 128:2) through wise choices made with my Christian values in different aspects of my life. None of it has been easy. I am a work in progress, but I live a life of gratefulness, despite the many trials I have faced. I am not, have never been, and will never be a victim. I give God the glory for waking me up through the trials He has allowed! He has given me eyes that see and ears that hear through His prompting to seek Him in my darkest days. He continues to mold me into who He wants me to be with each trial I face. I believe He is using me to plant seeds in others through the lessons I’ve learned through the difficult trials I have endured, the choices I’ve made, the faith I’ve kept, and the amazing, wonderful peaceful outcome in my life. Thank you for allowing me to share my perspective. It is incredibly therapeutic for me to write about my life experiences. I hope I can help you see a new perspective in the trials you are facing or may face in the future. I hope you enjoy. Leave me a comment with any questions or encouragement to make this a better blog and please consider following and sharing. Psalm 128:2 You will eat the fruit of your labor; blessings and prosperity will be yours.

4 thoughts on “Attempting Peace with a Narcissist

  1. You don’t pet a vicious dog. You chain it to a fence and stay away from it.

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  2. Yes. Thanks, Robert.

    I was once told, “It is easier to fight a fire after it has run out of fuel, not while it’s burning intensely.” However, I don’t think a narcissist’s fire is ever close to extinguishing. It’s always hot with explosive rage and nothing seems to diminish it.

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  3. I don’t believe that peace is possible with them because unless thry get 100% their way they will keep abusing you

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